MPIP: Melanoma Patients Information Page

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could you all go down this row of posts and read the one from entitled "melanoma back after 22 years" I feel this person could use the advice of people familiar with the Canadian Health Care system



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Terra's picture
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Last reply 5/29/2011 - 10:59pm

I guess I am just looking for words of encouragement.  Eght months ago when I found out I was pregnant and Derek was on chemo I knew it was not good at all.  He had made an appoint last summer for a vasectomy but canceled when he had to have lung suergery and I took birth control.  But there we were.  He didn't want to have it and understandably so he was on chemo and stage 4 and we have two young kids 4 and 2 now, but int he end I knew i couldn't have an abotrtion and felt very strongly that I was either going to kill him or kill the child with my decision/.  It has been a rough road, we didn't want three kids, now in a couple of weeks we wil have three kids and love them very much, but he is facing death and the stress of everything is weighing on him,.  Most of the time he is in a relatviely good frame of mind, we have continued help adn child care but I am worried.  His mother made comments int he beginning that I had maybe done this on purpose and recently members of his fmaily have made comments ab out how much stress this new baby will cause and that it is unthinkable this is all happening.  I really do at times blame myself and wonder how I will feel if he does die and how much of a part this new baby may have played and my decision to keep it.  I can't go back now, but knew I couldn't deal with losing them both and with having an abortion but I am having such an emotional time feelling guilt of what he isgoing thorugh.  I really hate life right now and can't heloing feeling responsible for his feelings of stress and his possible deteroiation with melanoma, which I know is happening hnow becasue he feels it.


Very very scared adn upset, Terra.

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Last reply 5/29/2011 - 4:18pm
MariaH's picture
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Last reply 12/15/2011 - 9:34pm

My husband Dave is 2 1/2 years out from a Stage III melanoma diagnosis after interferon.  Last week my 30 year old brother (after severe abdominal pain and weight loss) was diagnosed with Stage IV inoperable singet cell cancer (still running pathology to determine where it originated).  He was transferred to Roswell (the room right next to where my husband did his LND recovery) where they said there was nothing they could do, and he will be coming home soon.

My problem is this - after 2 1/2 of years of positive attitude, my husband is paranoid that his will come back now.  He is taking this VERY hard (and trust me, he's a tough guy).  When my brother was explaining his symptoms, my husband admitted that he has had several of the same.  He goes back for his 6 month check up on June 10, and is now asking to have scans done.  I don't know what to do to help him  - he is scared that he will be in Mike's shoes someday, and so am I.

Also, if there are some websites for us to help with my brother's prognosis (care networks or such) that you have used to help you through "end of life" issues, I would appreciate it.  It is very hard to stay positive for my husband and let my emotions out with my brother (who is borderline mentally retarded and lives with my parents).  I feel lost, overwhelmed, angry at the docs, scared that Dave's will come back - I'm a mess.  And I just need to vent.  I'm sorry, I know this may not be the board to post this on, but it was so supportive when Dave was first diagnosed, and I haven't found another with the support and love this one has.


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Last reply 5/26/2011 - 10:22am

Hey what's up,

 I have been looking around for a cancer "hostile" diet but have found alot that had their own agendas or seemed less than reputable. I have had cursory discussions with my doctor but I figure you guys could point me to a website that would have the info I need. Also I'm waiting for the results of my SLN biopsy, the surgeon said the lymph nodes looked normal but he could not say what was happening at a cellular level. Has anyone had normal looking lymph nodes that turned out to be cancerous? Just curious. 


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Last reply 5/25/2011 - 7:42am

Hi y'all,

Well, I'm going to be the first Ipi patient at my cancer center, and probably in all of DE! I figure the upstate folks get sent to Philly or Baltimore. I go in on Friday at 9 a.m. in Lewes.

God has blessed me with the ability to drive 20 minutes to my treatment, instead of almost 3 hours away.

Any suggestions or ideas, other than dress comfortably and take a good book? Both my husband and best friend would like to go with me, is that even necessary? (They've both missed a LOT of work just hauling me back and forth for four surgeries this year). I appreciate their support, but if I really won't need them, I'd like to "save" them for another time.

Posse, here we go. I told the physician's assistant doing my assessment, that I would have an excellent outcome, with no side effects, and set the gold standard for any folks who come after me!

Never will I leave you, never will I forsake you. Hebrews 13:5 Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares. 1 Peter 5:7 Stage IV 5/16/11 Ipi - 4 rounds May - July 2011 BRAF expanded access trial 8/8/11

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Anonymous's picture
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Last reply 7/13/2011 - 5:50pm

I live in British Columbia, Canada. I am a 63 year old man who had a superficial spreading melanoma on my lower back removed 22 years ago. I had this mole on my back for 10 years and my family doctor said it was nothing to worry about. It was the size of a quarter, and was removed when I saw a dermatologist  after it tingled when I brushed my hand against it. Fast forward to the present, about 5 months ago I noticed a small lump on my back , 3 inches above the site of the original melanoma. My family doctor said it was nothing to worry about, but when I noticed it getting bigger and starting to hurt, I said " I want it off". It turned out to be melanoma in a lymph node. I went to the B.C. cancer agency in Vancouver, the oncologist looked me over, and I was given a full body FDG pet scan.  The pet scan was negative.  There was no Sentinal node biopsy, and nothing else done. I was told to see the oncologist in July. The last 3 weeks. I've had diareha which is unusual for me, and I have soreness in my armpits although I can't feel any large glands other than a pea shaped gland under each armpit. I was surprised the Cancer oncologist  didn't mention any chemo or other protocol to help me beat this. I am scared and would appreciate any advice you can give me. I pray for everyone going through this disease. Any prayers you can spare are much appreciated.

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Anonymous's picture
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Last reply 5/25/2011 - 6:25am

Hi all, I am from South Africa.

I found this site purely by accident and am quite new to this type of forum. Not sure if I am using it correctly but here goes with crossed fingers that some responses will be forthcoming! I have not been able to find a topic similar to what I have.

Skin cancer identified as malignent melanoma stage1 removed from outer right ear lobe 2006
Started coughing in Jan 2011 and initial x-ray revealed lesion in lower right lung.

Subsequent CT Scan confirmed this but all blood and sputum tests were negative for cancer. Doctor advised me to wait 6 months and have scan repeated to see if any growth in lesion evident.

Visited Oncologist for annual check-up following ear surgery and I told her of recent developments.
She suggested a PET scan and this confirmed possible cancerous tumour.

Surgery suggested and Metastasis Malignant Melanoma stage 4 removed April 2011 (3,5cm by 5 cm cut away). However, no signs of any spread identified.

Saw Radiologist to discuss possible treatment and wait & see approach suggested due to lack of evidence that the mel had spread to any other part of my body. Will revisit in August for further X-ray and blood test.

My concern is, will this spread or not. What I have read up so far indicates that stage 4 is incurable. However, if it has all been removed then surely this will not happen or am I wrong? Is there a possibility that it could already have spread but just does not show with the tests they do? The negative possibilities are freaking me out.

Any input will be greatly appreciated or additional info supplied if required.

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Last reply 5/24/2011 - 12:00am

My husband and I just moved to Montgomery AL and I am going to need a new, local DERM for my 6-month MEL follow-ups. Can anybody recommend someone? I was seeing Dr. Venna/Dr. Peck at Washington Hospital Center in Washington, DC so I am looking for the best in the Montgomery region. THANKS! -Holly S.

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My husband and I just moved to Montgomery AL and I am going to need a new, local DERM for my 6-month MEL follow-ups. Can anybody recommend someone? I was seeing Dr. Venna/Dr. Peck at Washington Hospital Center in Washington, DC so I am looking for the best in the Montgomery region. THANKS! -Holly S.

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My husband and I just moved to Montgomery AL and I am going to need a new, local DERM for my 6-month MEL follow-ups. Can anybody recommend someone? I was seeing Dr. Venna/Dr. Peck at Washington Hospital Center in Washington, DC so I am looking for the best in the Montgomery region. THANKS! -Holly S.

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My husband and I just moved to Montgomery AL and I am going to need a new, local DERM for my 6-month MEL follow-ups. Can anybody recommend someone? I was seeing Dr. Venna/Dr. Peck at Washington Hospital Center in Washington, DC so I am looking for the best in the Montgomery region. THANKS! -Holly S.

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Last reply 5/23/2011 - 4:49pm
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BRAF trial?

if so, please elaborate on your: response/mutation/etc.

Insert Generic Inspirational Motto Here

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Carol Taylor's picture
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Last reply 5/23/2011 - 7:42pm

Sonce we've had so many newly diagnosed melanoma warriors join our ranks lately, all needing the same general info, I thought it might be helpful to corrale general stuff. Please add to the list.

1. Remember we're all different. Get advice and opinions from good, reliable sources, like here, but then, know yourself. Know your body, your medical history, what you can tolerate and what you can't. Make informed decisions, as best as you can realizing nothing is guaranteed, then proceed and don't look back. Don't second guess yourself. It won't help. The clock can't be turned back, so do what YOU think is best for YOU.

2, Do that under the care of melanoma specialists! I don't care if your general oncologist is your dear favorite uncle, get a referral and be treated by a melanoma specialist. That is vital! Your dermatologist, oncologist should you eed one, and surgical oncologist should ALL be melanoma specialists.

3. Don't let fear, panic, or anger rule the day. They are all normal reactions to a new diagnosis and all can be great motivators, BUT, they can work against you and paralyze instead of spur on. Attitude is key and a positive attitude is actually scientifically proven to be beneficial in a multitide of ways and an attitude of gratefulness. You can't control melanoma BUT you CAN control how you respond to this. It may take you a lot of selk-discipline to be positive but you can learn, It may come easily. It will be to your benefit to keep a good attitude.

4.Remember, your pharmacist is also a valuable resource! I'm married to one, mother to another, and sister-in-law to one. There's a mutant gene in my husband's family...they aren't the only ones, so I've seen these folks up close and personal in a way many of you haven't. They KNOW their drug interactions! Our doctors DON'T.  Shocking, but true. They know what side-effects you might experiience and can counsel you about them and when you need to call your doctor.

5. Because of number 4, please make sure you have ONE pharmacy you deal with. You have many doctors and maybe many meds. You want the best prices on all of them and that may mean you take different prescriptions to different pharmacies, or even order online. One, online, you don't get the professional counsel and you're short-changing yourself. Multiple pharmacies and online shopping both will present another problem...all your meds aren't listed together so know one is able to spot possible drug interractions that can cause real problems. It may cost you more in dollars to have all your scrips filled at one place, but you'll save in other ways that you can't put a price tag on...unless you experience a costly drug interaction problem that could have been caught and prevented had one pharmacy known ALL your meds.

Group, please add.

Grace and peace,


Life's short. Eat dessert first. (This blog post contains links to my story).

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Last reply 10/9/2011 - 3:46am

So, looks like I may be going the il-2 route as my stage 4 Nras positive mutation doesn't have many options, and il-2 is the only thing offering a proven continued durable response.  Although the percentage isn't high, at least there is the potential of a long term response. Anyways, I am hoping that some of you can tell me about the facilities and il2 teams and the care provided, especially any in California.  I had decided on a chemo trial to start thursday, but I'm having major second thoughts.  This will be my first treatment.  pet/ct 2 weeks ago showed a number of small lung tumors, largest grew from 8 mm to 1.1cm.  I like what I've read about Til therapy, but need at least a 2cm tumor to qualify.  Also, newly found bone met in a rib and lymph node under my armpit lighting up. Any comments/experiences would be most welcome.  Thank you.  Robert 

The circumstances of our lives have as much power as we choose to give them. David McNally

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