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The MPIP is the oldest and largest community of people affected by melanoma hosted through the Melanoma Research Foundation. It is designed to provide support and information to caregivers, patients, family and friends. Once you have been touched by melanoma—either as a patient or as a family member or friend of a patient—you become part of a community. It is not a community anyone joins willingly. But if you must be part of this group, you will find no better place to find the tools you need in your journey with this cancer, and the friends who can make that journey more bearable.

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EricNJill's picture
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Last reply 11/27/2010 - 9:12pm

Well we got the determination from Social Security Disability and they would not back date Eric's onset of disability because he made more then $1,000/month for the first 10 months.  So our 5 month waiting period will begin November 1st.  I have $3,000 in savings and I make around $800/month myself because I'm hourly and I'm taking off work to take him to appointments and to care for him.  His insurance is going to cost us $600/month and my house payment is $1,100/month so as you can see I'm going to be in trouble fast!

We had a friend offer to do a fundraiser for us.  I thought about setting up an account at a bank.  Does anyone have experience with this?  Do I have to start a charity?  I can't really start a non-profit charity because it's for profit right?  I'm confused about this and have no experience so I'm looking for help.  It's also been suggested that I put a "donate" button on Eric's Facebook Page so I'm looking into that, but first I want to make sure I set up everything correctly.  I would have to claim everything on my taxes as income right?

Also Eric said that he wants to set up a fund for us in the event of him passing.  He is so worried about us because he has no life insurance.  How do we go about doing that?

Sorry for so many questions, thank you for any advice.

JillNEric In OH

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Melanoma Mom's picture
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Last reply 12/7/2010 - 2:45pm

We had another visit to Dana-Farber on Tuesday. It was supposed to be an easy follow-up on our 14 year old son's two SNB surgical sites ..... never assume anything will be easy!  Josiah's body is trying to reject the dissolvable stitches and he had signs of a slight infection in both spots. So the surgeon cleaned, poked, prodded and packed the wounds with gauze - no pain meds or anything. Josiah was stoic as the blood ran, literally. What we had hoped might be a nice family day in Boston afterwards was not to be (we had brought his two younger sisters (ages 8 and 12) with us this time - a first to the hospital). Josiah was SO upset/mad/devastated after the appt. and he cried and raged inside the car. SO hard to witness and the girls were upset too. We finally got everyone calmed down enough to go out to dinner. Soon the kids were all laughing, but my husband and I felt like we had been run over by a mac truck - once again. I felt such pain in my heart for my son, as well as my daughters, who now have a very different life too.

The Oncologists and surgeons are strongly suggesting that we have Josiah try Interferon. I have been the hesitant one ... knowing the limited success and the possible side effects. But Josiah is adamant about trying it. I am fearful that if I put my foot down and tell him "no", he would blame me subconsciously if the cancer comes back. My husband also thinks he should do it. So that is the plan ....

We are able to do the treatments in Maine where we live and I have set up the start date of December 13th so that 2.5 weeks of the first treatment month will fall during his school break. I am looking forward to some time off from driving to our stressful visits in Boston .... 7 trips in 7 weeks, two surgeries, one devastating diagnosis, hours of scans - enough! Hopefully we can take December off from going there and can enjoy some of the holiday season here in Maine, especially the few weeks before he starts treatment. 

Please hold Josiah in your prayers .... children shouldn't have to fight cancer, but no one said life was fair.

stage IIc

NED - 8 days and counting .....

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MaryMary73's picture
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Last reply 11/25/2010 - 9:01pm
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28 days after being diagnosed with a Breslow depth of 0.39mm and 26 days after surgery and 11 days after learning that my margins are clear, I will be returning to work on Nov 29th. I am excited and yet extremely nervous at the same time. Life, as I knew it, will never be the same again.

Tomorrow, I have an appointment with my family doctor who has complete reports from the dermatopathologist and the plastic surgeon. I will finally be able to get a good look at what was written and he will also help if there is something I don't understand.

I want to thank all of you who prayed with me and for me. For your cheers and kind words. My heart is with each and every one of you yesterday, today and always.

Maria

P.S. You can find me on my personal Facebook profile at http://www.facebook.com/MariaAerikos

The only real wisdom is knowing you know nothing -Socrates

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Lori C's picture
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Last reply 11/28/2010 - 11:08pm
"You never gave up/and you never gave in/and you never said, "No, I can't take anymore of this...."
 
To all of you on this board:  whatever stage you are, whatever your current health situation, please know that you are indeed a survivor and a warrior.  Will proudly described himself as a cancer survivor even though he knew - we all did - that it was extraordinarily likely he would die from the melanoma eventually.  But until his last breath, he was a cancer indeed a cancer survivor and now is - as Jenna's mother described her NED. 
 
There have been a lot of losses & difficult times on this board.  Those of us who are or have been immersed in this fight know well the fear, the pain, the uncertainty, the depression, the terror and the pain of this disease.  Those are very real.  But just as real is the courage, the love, the devotion, the support, the hope - of everyone, patients, caregivers, loved ones - on this journey.  You are all survivors.  You are all possessors of that beautiful definition of courage - grace under pressure. 
 
I wish all of you a good Thanksgiving, and I cannot tell you how thankful I have been, through the most painful year of my life, for all of your help & support.

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Tim--MRF's picture
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Last reply 11/28/2010 - 9:58pm
Replies by: LynnLuc, debbieVA

On this Thanksgiving Day (for those of us in the US) we try to pause and give thanks.  In that spirit, I want to say a heartfelt "thank you" to everyone on this board.  This has been a challenging year in many ways--we have lost far too many wonderful warriors.  But we are all richer for having known them, even those we only met through the magic of electronics.  And I know that they, and countless thousands of others, lived longer and better because of the information and support they received through this community. 

Many, many of you spend hours every week replying to posts.  You offer your home email address and home number so complete strangers can reach you for more one-on-one support.  You reach out through the internet to inquire about people when they don't post in a while.

The care and compassion of people on this site are astounding, as is the wealth of knowledge and insight you offer.

I have been thinking a lot the past couple of days about Jenna, and Knute, and so many others.  Though these are sad thoughts--to know that they were taken by this nasty cancer--I cannot help but be greatful for the lessons of courage, faith, and hope we all learned from them along the journey. 

I know that holidays can be challenging, particularly for families who recently lost a loved one.  But I hope, too, that on this Thanksgiving Day we can all find reasons for gratitude in the relationships, memories, and stories we have gathered along the way.

Tim--MRF

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Last reply 11/25/2010 - 7:20pm
Replies by: Brandi, Dynasysman, Pekoe

I am MUP, originally classified N1b M0, awaiting left posterior neck dissection.  In preparation for surgery, we conducted a PET-CT scan (clear) and a brain MRI (see below).  Surgery is scheduled for December 7.

When my surgeon left a message saying he needed to discuss my MRI with me, I immediately started thinking, "brain mets, oh my G-d."  When we spoke, though, he said that the MRI had revealed an aneurysm at my M1 terminus.

I have been having a funny feeling for month -- less balance, losing words, etc. -- but never thought of an aneurysm.  However, symptoms have been getting worse...it could have blown at any time.  And the impact of a ruptured aneurysm really stink -- 10-15% death on the way to the hospital, up to 50% at 30 days.  Most survivors lose a bunch of brain function.

So now we will (hopefully) patch the aneurysm while doing the neck dissection.  I still don't know that my status will not get worse during surgery (the same MRI a second possible positive lymph node in another part of the left posterior triangle.)  But whatever comes, I will probably live longer and better because we found the aneurysm now.

You never know when life gives you blessings, and some come in the most bizarre ways...

Happy Thanksgiving, all.

Never give up. Never give up. Never, never, never, never, never give up. WInston Churchill It ain't over 'til it's over. Yogi Berra My 20th anniversary is only 9+ years away. Personally, I'm thinking champagne & oysters. Now I just have to get there

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Last reply 12/2/2010 - 6:38pm

Sorry for my absence. Been thinking about you all a lot. It's been a pretty busy month... a lot has happened. I'm not sure where I left off but here's an update...

Well,exactly one month ago I had my CT scan and two days later I found out that IL-2 was unfortunately not my magic bullet. But, I like to think that since it didn't work on me, I've raised the odds for it working on someone else. So that's good. They did say I may have partially responded due to the slight softness and shrinking I felt on my chest and back, but those ones don't really matter and it's not enough to call for another round. So.. since then...

During that appointment, my doctor had mentioned "adoptive cell therapy" clinical trials, a therapy they offer in Bethesda MD at the National Institute of Health to qualified patients, it was actually the first thing he mentioned months ago but I didn't qualify because my brain lesion, but since then, that's been cleared up, and with 3 months of clear brain MRI (which they require), I might be a good candidate. So him and I made some calls, set up an appointment, and I flew to Washington DC. I got to the NIH, went through security, checked in, got my badge, did all my necessary blood work, urinalysis, chest scan, EKG, all the loops and hoops over the course of the day, and finally met with my possible team of doctors. I was supposed to go home and they'd call me in a week to see if they'd even accept me, but, miraculously, they accepted me then and there, and asked me to stay two extra nights to do a surgery and remove the mass from my back. The next day they wheeled me to the OR, put me to sleep, and I woke up feeling great having that thing off my back. Finally.

By the way, a brief summary of adoptive cell therapy: They remove a tumor or piece of a tumor to extract some natural t-killer cells from it. Then in a lab they see if they can harvest the cells. Usually they can, sometimes they can't. If they see they're growing, they continue to harvest, possibly for many weeks, until they have about 6 billion of them. Then there's a three week procedure where they give them back to you. And then you wait, hope and pray that these t-cells are abundant enough, strong enough and smart enough to recognize the bad stuff and go to town on it.

So back to the update. Less than two weeks after the surgery they called me to tell me that cells were growing. Big relief because if they don't grow.. well then there's no cells. They said they'd call when there were enough for me to come back. And again, miraculously, I got a call two days later saying that my cells are growing phenomely fast (faster than they'd ever seen.) and that looks like I'll be starting the therapy a lot sooner then expected. So I flew back out the next day for prep work, another brain MRI an abdomen MRI and a CT scan of my chest along with more blood work and a long morning of phresis where they took a bunch of white blood cells for 4 hours. Then I flew home with an appointment to come back this Sunday/Monday and start my 3 week therapy on Tuesday.

Tuesday, unfortunately will consist of me starting a week of traditional chemo, not to target the tumors but to kill my immune system, they want it gone so it doesn't effect or "water down" my new immune system.  Then on the second Tuesday, they give me my cells back with a week of IL-2, just like IL-2, one bag every 8 hours as long as tolerable. Then the third week is recovery week, getting me back to normal so hopefully I can be home before Christmas. Then as I said, I just wait hope and pray until they call me back and scan me.

So that's that. It's been a long and busy month.  

I'll have to browse the past posts and see how you all are doing, but I Hope everyone is doing good, staying positive and enjoying the day off today, hopefully with some good company.

Talk to you soon. -Kevin

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Melanoma Mom's picture
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Last reply 11/25/2010 - 1:11pm
Replies by: Becky, Linda/Kentucky

Today we celebrate one week of NED for our 14 year old son. 

Wishing you all a beautiful day full of love, merriment and pie!

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Rebecca and Bob's picture
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Last reply 11/25/2010 - 9:00am
Replies by: lhaley, King

My husband went through so many tests the past two days. Endoscopy, colonoscopy and additional CTSCAN. This was for his abdominal cramping, stomach pains and gas. Everything came back clear. The only test left that they can do is the camera in a capsule to further look at his small intestine. They could not do that one unless they did the other test first. Something about insurance no covering it and that this is the normal process for investigating stomach issues.   Although after all these test the doctor did say it appeared he had Irritable bowel syndrome and reflux, probably from stress. He did put him on Prilosec and he seems to feel better, so that's good news at least he feels better and relieved. We may still pursue the capsule test, but another thing the doctor said was if my husband had another intussception or any blockage that he would have never been able to drink all the fluid for the colonoscopy that he would have thrown up.

i think we both feel better after all these tests, it's scary when you have stomach problems and you have had mets to your small intestine before. We will probably still do the capsule camera test because at this point what's one more test going to hurt.

Anyway, I hope everyone has a great Thanksgiving and enjoys the day.

Believe

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EmilyandMike's picture
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Last reply 11/27/2010 - 12:28pm

I just saw this article on my Google alert.  Looks like they are getting closer to figuring out why people build resistance to BRAF inhibitors.

http://www.forexpros.com/news/general-news/studies-show-how-skin-cancer-evades-promising-drug-176820

Also - I have been reading a wonderful new book on the history of cancer called "The Emperor of All Maladies".  Written by an oncologist, it reads like a detective novel and has really opened my eyes.  It is not a book that talks about melanoma, but I still highly recommend it because it is very relevant to any cancer. Read the reviews for a good overview of the book:  http://www.amazon.com/Emperor-All-Maladies-Biography-Cancer/dp/1439107955

All my best to you

Emily - wife of Mike, Stage 3a

www.emandmichael.com

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Sharyn's picture
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Last reply 11/24/2010 - 6:40pm

Hello everyone,

I'm sure you all remember Janet from the UK who recently underwent WBR to treat a single brain met. I believe she also had it in her stomach. Well, I received a personal email from her friend Cynthia, saying that Janet had been admitted in a hospice facility. Tonight I received this second email from Cynthia:

Hello Sharyn
It is with sadness that I have to tell you that Janet died today peacefully in the hospice with her family beside her.
She was a very brave lady who loved life and fought the cancer to the end, sadly the last treatment did not have the desired outcome for her.
I hope you continue to make good progress and so glad it worked for you.
I think Janet felt if she tried some thing rather than letting things happen then she was in control.
Best wishes
Cynthia  

I just thought you would all want to know.

Hugs

Sharyn, Stage IV
 

 

WLE, SNB, ILP, LND, PV-10, Uterine mets (Hysterectomy), GM-CSF, WBR, RT, Temodar, B-RAF negative, SRS (Novalis) to brain, Breast mets (Mastectomy), currently on Ipilimumab compassionate use trial Mets to brain, lung and sub-qs. Craniotomy.

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naty's picture
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Last reply 11/23/2010 - 10:07pm
Replies by: naty, Jackie W

I'm just wondering how do you fight insurance to get to major cancer centers such as MD Anderson?  We live in michigan, my father has medicare thru an insurance company here.  And FINALLY after 3 weeks of daily calls to the insurance, his oncologist, and MDA we have a signed contract JUST for a 1 day consult.  Is this typical to have to fight so HARD against the insurance companies?  I was told originally by MDA that we would be there for 3-5 days for a consult, but now we will be there for a day.

Sorry I'm trying to learn the ropes and we are new to this "game".  Any information and tips would be helpful!!   dad has stage IV (brain, liver, lung) and just finished brain radiation last monday.  

So I guess my questions are 

1.  How to deal with insurance (or is it medicare that is a problem?) or is there an insurance that you may have that was ok with MDA

 

2.  While at MDA for the consult will they discuss all his possible options in regards to clinical trials he qualifies for or do we need to know what he may qualify for (via clinicaltrials.gov) ?

3.   I may be adding more! thanks

Melissa 

 

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churchwelldana's picture
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Last reply 11/26/2010 - 9:52am

I'm currently stage 3a, about to have surgery to remove lymph nodes. After that I will start Interferon. I live in Memphis and there are no clinical trials available here. There is one available at Vanderbilt in Nashville (4 hour drive). It involves using ipilimumab, but it is a double blind study. I'm just wondering if that would even be worth my time. I know most all of this is a wait and see kind of thing, but I'm only 32 and would like to do whatever I can to reduce my chances of it coming back. The good thing is that my PET/CT scans were clear and that I only had one sentinel node with a micrometastases.

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alicia's picture
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Last reply 12/5/2010 - 12:20pm
Replies by: Amy Busby, Lori C, JJO, Carmon in NM, Jydnew, jag, Anonymous

I've recently been experiencing headaches that cuase extreme nausea. Sounds like migraines to me but I've never had this problem and I'm wondering if this is something I should call my dr about. I'm not due to see her until April 2011. I'm just concerned about brain mets And i haven't had an MRI of the brain since I was initially diagnosed in sep 2006. Did any of you with brain mets have symptoms before they were found. My once only does ct scans of my chest once a year and I worry something could be missed elsewhere in my body. Thanks any input would be helpful.

Alicia B age 28 with 2 kids
Stage 3 melanoma 2006
2nd primary stage1 Mel 2010

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lalbers's picture
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Last reply 11/24/2010 - 12:13am
Replies by: Cynthia C, lalbers, JuleFL, jag, Fen

I'm new here to this forum, and hopefully can have someone to lean on.  Dad had skin melanoma 5 years ago- had surgery, clean margins, sentinal lymph node biopsies- everything clean.  Pet/MRI/ oncologist every year.  A few months ago, dad developed respiratory problems, diagnosed with seasonal allergies.  Wrong.  Chest x-ray showed several large tumors by his heart and lungs.  Biopsy confirmed.  It's back.  He lives several states away.  They want to sell their house and move closer to me and hubs, but with the market the way it is, they can't sell, and can't move down here till it sells.  I'm a nurse, and know his prognosis, even though he tries to shield me and my brother from it- ie, they won't get copies of diagnostics, and read them to us, even though I know they have them- they say they don't.  They've already sold off some valuables they had so that mom can have enough money to move- but money really isn't an issue- she can live with us.  The thing that's killing me, is that as a nurse, I'm flexible in working, I've already told my work I may have to leave, and that's ok- I can get a travel position up there, and spend time with them- a few months, a few weeks....... Dad refuses to let me and my brother come up.  He says he wants to die there with mom, and we can come up after he's dead.  We've never been really close, although they did spend a summer, and several vacations with us in the last few years- and I talk to mom almost every day.  He's only opting for Temozolomide, even though he is eligible for severala clinical trials- but mom would have to drive him to them, and she can't drive that much.  I offered to come up there and drive them, and was turned down.  I hate this feeling so helpless.......

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