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Personally, I really like the guy. Handsome, articulate, wholesome. A lot like me. So whats not to like? Oh ya. He's a Morman. So why should that matter? I remember when A Catholic could not be President because America would then become a servant of the Pope!!! God forbid. JFK shattered that myth. But to many of my uber right wing gun toting God speaking evangelical baptist family members, neighbors and (almost) friends, a MORMAN IS NOT A CHRISTIAN.  Is this not the epitome of discrimination? Does not the very Constitution on which our nearly perfect Democracy is based specifically rule out discrimination based on race, color or creed? All men created equal, blah, blah, blah? Notice there was no specific mention of women? But I digress.

So poor old Mitt cannot pass the most fundamental test of the far right. Being a "real" Christian.  At least Obama broke down the race and color barriers. Which is one of the reasons I proudly voted for him. And while I'm at it, why not a Jew or a woman, or a black Jewish woman for President? The sad fact is prejudice runs deep in the heart of all religious fundamentalists. Be they Christian, Muslim or Jew. And all the fundamentalists are scary.  Given the chance,they will happily deny the freedom of choice to all other competing beliefs. Dogma reigns supreme and exceptions to dogma are fiercely resented.


So chew on this and spit back at me if you got any balls.

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Last reply 1/6/2012 - 4:33pm
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I just logged in on my iPhone only to find a completely new interface.  The new view no longer mimics what is seen when logging in via computer.  Can no longer see number of replys received and not read since last visit and is much more cluttered.  HUGE step backward (in my opinion).


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Last reply 2/1/2012 - 8:03am
Replies by: Kim41, yoop, BonnieLea, jag, BillMFl, Anonymous

Bill's trip from Hawaii, Dencolt's depressing mid life crisis/yearly update (borderline country music)  Bonnie Lea's ramblings, and a Kindle Fire?

Is it possible for there to be more boring crap on this forum?

Roxanne don't even respond with your stupid f-ing recipes, shoe stories, and/or updates on your useless kids and ugly dog pics.

Barbie Girl, well, you know what I said, and I definitely meant it, that was me who posted anonymously.

F this place, Tim, please close it down and put it out of it's misery, if you are going to keep it going, get rid of the profanity filter.  I had to use dashes to get around all of the dadburned crummy sh-t.



Oh yeah, Happy New Years everybody.

I doubt that 2012 could possibly be worse.

Insert Generic Inspirational Motto Here

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Last reply 1/2/2012 - 10:08am
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Looking for some advice. I am unable to use my Kindle Fire to reply to any MIPI posts. For whatever reason, the keyboard is not active here but works well otherwise. (It's a real pain replying on my phone.)

Login or register to post replies.   Peace to you all this holiday!

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Last reply 12/26/2011 - 10:58am
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Introducing  Zoie, my 17 month old great grand daughter.  I will never be the same!  They are here for Xmas and I am thrilled  to see a bit of my genetic material result in this fantastic little sweetie.  


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Last reply 12/24/2011 - 4:14pm
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So I was zip lining down a mountainside on Kauai. The actual site where Jurassic Park was filmed. As far as I know, I was the only dinosauer there haha. 

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Last reply 1/25/2012 - 7:30pm

Highs, lows, ups, downs.

Exciting business trips to Singapore, Shanghai, Bangkok, Hamburg, Manchester, Korea... and then being let go due to downsizing.

Losing loved ones; seeing my daughters grow and blossom and become the most unexpected things of all:  individual adults with a glow all their own.

Reconnecting with friends.  Quarreling with family. 

Sleepless nights pondering the future, followed by the joy of sitting down to breakfasts and dinners with my family for the first time in eight years.

Seeing my wife being so happy to see me at home ... and then gently asking if I should spend some time at the outplacement office because, let's face it, I'm not a picnic to be around for 24 hours every day.

A good year, a bad year, an amazing year..

But we're still here.  We're still fighting.  Remembering what's important.  Still making our presence felt to loved ones and friends.

Merry Christmas to you all.  My hopes for a fantastic 2012.

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My dearest wish for all of us here, is that we all get and maintain wellness for ever .   Merry Christmas  and Happy Chanukah and every other time. 

2012 will be a brand new year, new starts for everyone, unfinished business finished. and Faith in Human kind renewed for those that need that particular wish.

Please everyone lets take care of each other.  Only we know how it is.


Love and Much respect

Bonnie Leasmiley

Hang in There

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Last reply 12/21/2011 - 9:38am
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an Asian escort and a pair of Christian Louboutin fuzzy boots!!    (OKOKOK....I'll take the boots!  They're prettier than those fugly UGGS!   If you need my addy, lemme know! I expect them by the 24th!!) 

What's with all the spam here these days?!?   (Oh..... size 9, btw!!)


Merry Christmas, everybody!!

Things are fixin' to get real busy 'round here----mom's coming home from rehab Thursday (still can't put weight on her leg--what the heck am I gonna do?!?)  I'll figure out something!  FIRST thing is getting her outta those damn diapers they have her in.  Ugh!!

Then my oldest sis and bro-in-law are coming the 23rd---first time we've spent Christmas together in decades!! I'm so excited!!   I cooked a turkey at Thanksgiving, but got lazy and ordered a Tyler, TX "Greenberg" Smoked Turkey for Christmas.  Haven't had one in years, they're GREAT, but they are quite pricey.  It's prolly not too late to order one ( 

I wish you all a wonderful Christmas, filled with love, peace, and hope!   I hope Santa brings you everything you need and most of what you want!

Love to you all,



Life is NOT a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving in an attractive & well-preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, champagne in one hand, strawberries in the other, body totally used up & worn out, & screaming WOOHOOO, WHAT A RIDE!!

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Last reply 12/21/2011 - 6:29pm

hmm..well.. I have been offline for about a week, and the last day before I left, I couldn't get on here because the site was under construction. Now My link to the off topic forum brings me to the cure ocular melanoma forum, though.. it seems the posts are still from the otbb.


I can't seem to find an actula link TO the off topic forum, so ..has it been dissolved? I also don't see any explanation from the forum owners...can anyone fill me in?


befuzzling it is



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Last reply 12/15/2011 - 8:42am
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Picture this....   Today is Monday December 12th.  I was just nodding off for a early afternoon nap.  (in fact so darn lazy still was jammie-fied)  phone rings grab glasses and see that it is one of those  000-0000 numbers  I have learned to answer these.


On Saturday December 10th I had a Neurology appt (remember guys and guyettes I have a VP shunt to help control NPH)  so  along with a brain bleed that happened last May.....I  have never quite regained my senses (I feel)  also moderate constant headache.  But with all this kidney cancer crap shunt problems are furthest from my mind.   SOOOO  my nice neuro guy makes up a request for CT scan of my addled brain.  Me thinks  well par for this course it be ages.  Breathe a sigh of relief.

So back to today....I answer phone..   tis the hobbithall that I am having the kidney thing done next month, and they asked if I could come in  at 1:00 pm. TODAY!    So I had to say  well, I have to call my husband to see if he can take me.  One no car for Bonnie, and plus I don't drive anymore.  So I do, and call them back.  Bob comes home leaving a BOAT IN THE SLINGS  (he was in the middle of hauling out a winterized boat that had caught fire last week)  he leaves said boat hanging,  tells the miserable owners he will be back.

we go to hobbithall,  I get the scan done,   lady pulls me out of machine after the initial scan  asks nicely   "when were you born?"  I answered  she pushes the button and back in I go....zap zap zap  out I roll,  she comes back asks me....did you just come from a doctors office?  (now I am getting worried)  I said well, I had appt on Saturday, they faxed the request today maybe.  She says well thats fine, you are done.


Home I come.  Here I am.  thinking a nap sounds good....but Dr. Phil is soon on here, and then comes Dr. Oz  so what to do what to do?  life of Bonnie.


SIGH!!!  I hope I am done withh appts till after christmas.  Tomorrow I have a GYN appt (scheduled last dec for just a check up)  if they find anything or send me for anything I will BLOW MY TOP!  Just kidding, I will remain calm, cool and collected as per.

Hang in There

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Last reply 12/22/2011 - 8:40pm

She is tucked away in a really special place in my heart. A place only she and I shared. Life has gone on but it is not the same.  I guess it is never the same once you've known Melanoma.

I remember all my special friends that passed away during this time of the year. It is too painful to think aboutmost of the time but once in a while I allow myself to remember.

 I remember our last call,  I didn't realize that three days later her journey would come to an end.

I'd like to think she ise watching over us and laughing, with spaghetti coming out of her nose! (inside joke)




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Last reply 12/20/2011 - 10:14pm
Replies by: KyCyn, BonnieLea, jag, lhaley

Finally..........  I have  renal cell carcinoma.   NO METS from either Melanoma or Breast Cancer.  Just plain old RCC.  I will have a open partial nephrectomy on Jan 16th. 


What a relief to stop all this worry.  so more Bonnie parts will adorn the shelves only this time it be at a different hospital.  So it (kidley) won't be sitting side by side with boobs, and eyelid.  and various dysplastic goodies.  they will start living life elsewhere.   How weird that this is the 3rd totally unrelated cancer in me.  (cannot say little old me)  but old yep. 

well that be my news for now.

Love Bonnie Lea

Hang in There

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Last reply 12/19/2011 - 11:54am

Just seeing if any of my old mates are still plenty of news if you remember me....which i doubt many will.Been clear of MM for 16 years now

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