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The MPIP Off-Topic Forum is a community bulletin board that provides the melanoma community with a safe space to share experiences and to give and find support from others who can relate to having or caring for someone with a melanoma diagnosis. Please note: if you have an urgent question about melanoma to ask the community, visit the main MPIP Forum.

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jag's picture
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Last reply 8/7/2013 - 12:01pm
Replies by: Janner, jag

Hi everybody!


Meredith and I are starting what will hopefully be an annual event, maybe we will even get more people to join us as the years go on.  This year we are going to be in an event that raises money for cancer by making us walk 5k around Yankee stadium.  Thats right, all of the stairs and a lap around the field,  You can donate on either one of our pages, 


My wife is

mine is



If anybody would like to join in with us, you can create your own team, or join ours, (blackmoles).  Just watch out for all of the syringes from A-rod when you pass 3rd base.-you might even get to watch me being passed by a grandma and a little girl since I only have 1 lung and my left leg coordination is all screwy from the brain surgeries I've had.  The great thing about Damon Runyon, is that it doesn't raise money for any specific cancer research it gives grants based on the best researchers for all different types of cancer.  Jedd Wolchok(our oncologist), of Memorial Sloan Kettering once received one of these grants and that turned into a new and better FDA approved treatment for melanoma. (Yervoy)


The first 10 donors get a shamwow, and especially big donors will get a PBS tote bag with a Ken Burns CD collection.  Donate within the next 10 minutes and we will even throw in a Slapchop!   


Best to everybody and back to the more serious matters at hand  which is you doing your best to kill the beast.


As for updates on me, I'm 5 years out with no evidence of disease 40 years old (was especially happy to make it to 40, as that made it 10 years since my diagnosis (30th birthday).  Meredith and I have a son named Jedd, he is now 15 months old and already much more mature than his father.

Meredith and I run a successful mobile veterinary business, and my current treatments are just daily antiseizure medication which I am currently weaning off of.  I thank God for the gift of life every single day.



God Bless everybody in their battle


John/Elmer Fudd (yep the guy nobody liked from the DS.)

Insert Generic Inspirational Motto Here

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Meagan's_mom_Claire's picture
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Last reply 8/3/2013 - 6:21pm

Have been trying to email her and haven't heard back. If someone can let her know that Claire and Meagan are looking for her, my email address is

Live life as normal as possible

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dhrahn's picture
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Last reply 7/28/2013 - 12:07am
Replies by: JerryfromFauq

Hi everybody - My husband was diagnosed 1 year ago with Stage IV melanoma.  He has been on zelboraf for a year and we had some awesome results but both adrenals are tumors and have started growing again as of last week ct scan.  Devastated, yes.  This last year was almost surreal because my husband was feeling overall really good.  Our oncologist has now presented 2 options...  yervoy or clinical trial.  What do we do?????  We are heading up to Angeles clinic in Santa Monica this Monday and then plan to fly out to Moffitt but I questioning if we should stick with yervoy..... As all of you know this is all so overwhelming.  Any advice would be greatly appreciated. -Holly and Dave

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bridges's picture
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Last reply 7/28/2013 - 12:03am
Replies by: JerryfromFauq

Melanoma is a kind of skin cancer which is highly dangerous as stated by many health experts. What are the signs to look for Melanoma ? I am trying to find numbers of signs and symptoms of Melanoma. Can anyone share some details on the subject ?

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Replies by: JerryfromFauq

People are missing the Main MPIP Melanoma Bulletion Board and not getting responses.   Click on the "GO TO MPIP"  problem is the splitting of

I'm me, not a statistic. Praying to not be one for years yet.

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I'm me, not a statistic. Praying to not be one for years yet.

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gaby's picture
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Last reply 6/13/2013 - 3:01pm
Replies by: gaby, wpneuma, POW

Hi! My husband (38 years) was diagnosed with melanoma (ankle) in june 2012(Breslow 2.3 mm without ulceration, less than 1 mm2 mitosis), we are living in hell, unfortunately the result of the sentinel node biopsy (groin) gave positive 1/4, so he hada surgery on groin node dissection and lymph node biopsy in the stomach, all clean.

Doctor offered interferon pegylado (new treatment) or wait and watch, my husband started on 29 October with pegylated interferon treatment as adyudante.Treatmentis difficult,has many side effects. Bothafraidthat melanomareturnsand not realize

Please let mehaveyourexperiencewith stageIIIaandpegylatedinterferon.

Iam verysad and depressed. Also wantedto knowif themelanomabringssterility, because we weretrying to haveour first childandwe could notbecausethe doctor dida semen test andreturn resultswerebad.





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My Mom is 79 years old and she was diagnosed with a recurrence of Melanoma yesterday.   Her story with Melanoma has been a couple of years.  About 4 years ago she had some Melanoma on her right arm.   It was determined by a surgical oncologist to to a wide cision graft.  Unfortunately it came back and last year at this time they did it once more.  This past January she broke her leg and we sort of forgot about the Melanoma (my fault) and it was not until the weather got warmer that I noticed it was back.  She thought it was scar tissue as she noticed it nine months earlier and pointed it out to the surgical oncologist who said it was probably scar tissue from the latest graft.


I am scared to death for her.  Tommorow she gets an MRI and Thursday she is getting a PET Scan.   What confusing me is the doctor did not do a biopsy he is assuming that since that is the sight of the previous melanoma that this would be a natural conclusion.


Has anyone heard of scar tissue that masks itself as melanoma?




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patrick mccarthy's picture
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Last reply 6/8/2013 - 3:43pm
Replies by: patrick mccarthy, POW

Hi everybody I'm new here. My brother been diagnosed with stage 4 melanoma he also has an 8any help NM brain met where do we start?

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MarieM's picture
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Last reply 6/4/2013 - 10:46pm

Hi all...


After getting an "in and out" phone message in my voicemail a few weeks ago.....and calling Dian back twice.....I finally got in touch with her tonight...

She says to say HELLO to all of you!!!

She is doing really well. Her physical therapist and occupational therapist are amazed at how well she is doing! She sounds GREAT to talk to...but is having some deficits. Typing and reading.....hence she is not here. And her music which she IS playing is having some deficits. She says though, that the melanoma can't be found!!! :~).

Bob just bought her some software with a microphone, so she will hopefully be able to figure it out and post herself. I for one miss her!!!!!

Love you Dian~

Hugs, Marie

Oh...she sounds WONDERFUL on the phone!!!!

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Nad T's picture
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Last reply 6/2/2013 - 11:01am
Replies by: Nad T, BillMFl

Hey, DT here.

You with us?

Have lost contact with everyone.

Just hit 40 with The Indian. Thunderbird.

Wish I could post pictures. Emerson 10 and Nat 7. Do you have any doubt that they get love from us? Fun.

Just wish they had some tough times to make them stronger. Sadly those times may be coming with that pri*k Bill as our next President

Call me.

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Anonymous's picture
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Last reply 5/28/2013 - 5:24pm
Replies by: Janner

My father was diagnosed with Stage 4 melanoma in his lungs (very small spots) in early 2012. He was going to Sloan Kettering and was put on ippi.  There wasn't much reaction to it initially so then he then transferred to Yale (closer to home) and was put on PD-1.  Over the course of a year about 85% of the tumors shrunk which was wonderful news.  However in his latest scan 3 spots on his ribs/chest popped up.  The dr is now taking him off of PD-1 and putting him back on ippi.  Has anyone had a similar experience?   

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Last reply 5/19/2013 - 10:20pm
Replies by: jag

Dear One and all.


The other day I went back to PMH (princess Margaret Hospital) to review a mass of recent tests.  The results are:  TA DA  my tests were all BORING! yes that was the key word.

I am now officially discharged from PMH after 9 years of six month appts.  I am being transferred to another hospital for a new trial clinic for long term followup for melanoma patients not undergoing treatments.   in other words I think it translates to NED after all these years. 

Of  course I still have on going issues with my "earlid" as the black stuff keeps on comiing back, then they biopsy it, and it goes on.  I still have six months checks for the RCC that was removed and will always be watched for any signs of BC coming back.

  BUT those are all at different hospitals.


Those of you on FB know this but the rest  of you??

Love Bonnie


P.S.  JOHN pls write you owe me hahaha.  Barbie Girl you need to answer my questions regarding your new spot on cheek.  You were soooo worried and now I hear nothing....what happened?

Janner, I love you

Love Bonnie

Hang in There

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Anonymous's picture
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Last reply 5/17/2013 - 11:49am
Replies by: Shelby - MRF

doesn't anyone look at this board?

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POW's picture
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Last reply 5/9/2013 - 3:07pm
Replies by: BillMFl, Colleen66

As you may or may not know, my brother passed away 2 months ago after a brief, intense battle with melanoma. I have posted here before about my anxiety, depression, and grief. The people on this site have been extraordinarily kind and understanding-- a big ((HUG)) to all of you! I know that my personal journey isn't over-- the void in my life and the hole in my heart will last forever. But I can look back now and see some ways in which I have grown and matured in the last year. I have come to understand some things I didn't understand before. For example...


I looked around my home office the other day and realized that it looks like somebody exploded a bomb in it. Then I looked around at the rest of the house and realized that all the other rooms were almost as bad. "Oh my!" I thought, "How could I let things get this way?!!" Then, like a flashbulb going off, I suddenly realized that I am finally coming out of my stress/grief fog. My house didn't suddenly get messy-- it has been building up for months. But I have been so stressed and so grief-stricken that I either didn't notice or didn't care. Why bother noticing something that I don't have the energy or the desire to fix?
Over the last 2 weeks I have found myself getting back to normal. I'm taking fewer naps. Doing less gardening and more income-producing freelancing. I'm getting dressed in the morning and actually looking FORWARD to getting to work! I'm scrubbing toilets and washing floors rather than listening to talking books and playing computer games all day. 
It's very disconcerting to realize now in hindsight how very bad off I was emotionally. Or maybe I wasn't really "bad off". Maybe I just had to rearrange my priorities for the last 10 months and now my priorities are getting back to normal. At any rate, I am feeling much better and feeling good about getting some important things done. I think I'm going to be OK on my own for now. 
And here, all my faithful companions and supporters, have one more big ((HUG)) from me!! As fellow melanoma sufferer Peter "The Ogler" Ogle said, "Living is hard, but life is good. We are all blessed to be a part of God’s great creation."

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