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My Mom is 79 years old and she was diagnosed with a recurrence of Melanoma yesterday.   Her story with Melanoma has been a couple of years.  About 4 years ago she had some Melanoma on her right arm.   It was determined by a surgical oncologist to to a wide cision graft.  Unfortunately it came back and last year at this time they did it once more.  This past January she broke her leg and we sort of forgot about the Melanoma (my fault) and it was not until the weather got warmer that I noticed it was back.  She thought it was scar tissue as she noticed it nine months earlier and pointed it out to the surgical oncologist who said it was probably scar tissue from the latest graft.


I am scared to death for her.  Tommorow she gets an MRI and Thursday she is getting a PET Scan.   What confusing me is the doctor did not do a biopsy he is assuming that since that is the sight of the previous melanoma that this would be a natural conclusion.


Has anyone heard of scar tissue that masks itself as melanoma?




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Last reply 6/8/2013 - 3:43pm
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Hi everybody I'm new here. My brother been diagnosed with stage 4 melanoma he also has an 8any help NM brain met where do we start?

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MarieM's picture
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Last reply 6/4/2013 - 10:46pm

Hi all...


After getting an "in and out" phone message in my voicemail a few weeks ago.....and calling Dian back twice.....I finally got in touch with her tonight...

She says to say HELLO to all of you!!!

She is doing really well. Her physical therapist and occupational therapist are amazed at how well she is doing! She sounds GREAT to talk to...but is having some deficits. Typing and reading.....hence she is not here. And her music which she IS playing is having some deficits. She says though, that the melanoma can't be found!!! :~).

Bob just bought her some software with a microphone, so she will hopefully be able to figure it out and post herself. I for one miss her!!!!!

Love you Dian~

Hugs, Marie

Oh...she sounds WONDERFUL on the phone!!!!

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Last reply 6/2/2013 - 11:01am
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Hey, DT here.

You with us?

Have lost contact with everyone.

Just hit 40 with The Indian. Thunderbird.

Wish I could post pictures. Emerson 10 and Nat 7. Do you have any doubt that they get love from us? Fun.

Just wish they had some tough times to make them stronger. Sadly those times may be coming with that pri*k Bill as our next President

Call me.

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Anonymous's picture
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Last reply 5/28/2013 - 5:24pm
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My father was diagnosed with Stage 4 melanoma in his lungs (very small spots) in early 2012. He was going to Sloan Kettering and was put on ippi.  There wasn't much reaction to it initially so then he then transferred to Yale (closer to home) and was put on PD-1.  Over the course of a year about 85% of the tumors shrunk which was wonderful news.  However in his latest scan 3 spots on his ribs/chest popped up.  The dr is now taking him off of PD-1 and putting him back on ippi.  Has anyone had a similar experience?   

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Last reply 5/19/2013 - 10:20pm
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Dear One and all.


The other day I went back to PMH (princess Margaret Hospital) to review a mass of recent tests.  The results are:  TA DA  my tests were all BORING! yes that was the key word.

I am now officially discharged from PMH after 9 years of six month appts.  I am being transferred to another hospital for a new trial clinic for long term followup for melanoma patients not undergoing treatments.   in other words I think it translates to NED after all these years. 

Of  course I still have on going issues with my "earlid" as the black stuff keeps on comiing back, then they biopsy it, and it goes on.  I still have six months checks for the RCC that was removed and will always be watched for any signs of BC coming back.

  BUT those are all at different hospitals.


Those of you on FB know this but the rest  of you??

Love Bonnie


P.S.  JOHN pls write you owe me hahaha.  Barbie Girl you need to answer my questions regarding your new spot on cheek.  You were soooo worried and now I hear nothing....what happened?

Janner, I love you

Love Bonnie

Hang in There

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Anonymous's picture
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Last reply 5/17/2013 - 11:49am
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doesn't anyone look at this board?

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Last reply 5/9/2013 - 3:07pm
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As you may or may not know, my brother passed away 2 months ago after a brief, intense battle with melanoma. I have posted here before about my anxiety, depression, and grief. The people on this site have been extraordinarily kind and understanding-- a big ((HUG)) to all of you! I know that my personal journey isn't over-- the void in my life and the hole in my heart will last forever. But I can look back now and see some ways in which I have grown and matured in the last year. I have come to understand some things I didn't understand before. For example...


I looked around my home office the other day and realized that it looks like somebody exploded a bomb in it. Then I looked around at the rest of the house and realized that all the other rooms were almost as bad. "Oh my!" I thought, "How could I let things get this way?!!" Then, like a flashbulb going off, I suddenly realized that I am finally coming out of my stress/grief fog. My house didn't suddenly get messy-- it has been building up for months. But I have been so stressed and so grief-stricken that I either didn't notice or didn't care. Why bother noticing something that I don't have the energy or the desire to fix?
Over the last 2 weeks I have found myself getting back to normal. I'm taking fewer naps. Doing less gardening and more income-producing freelancing. I'm getting dressed in the morning and actually looking FORWARD to getting to work! I'm scrubbing toilets and washing floors rather than listening to talking books and playing computer games all day. 
It's very disconcerting to realize now in hindsight how very bad off I was emotionally. Or maybe I wasn't really "bad off". Maybe I just had to rearrange my priorities for the last 10 months and now my priorities are getting back to normal. At any rate, I am feeling much better and feeling good about getting some important things done. I think I'm going to be OK on my own for now. 
And here, all my faithful companions and supporters, have one more big ((HUG)) from me!! As fellow melanoma sufferer Peter "The Ogler" Ogle said, "Living is hard, but life is good. We are all blessed to be a part of God’s great creation."

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Last reply 4/29/2013 - 10:57pm
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Hi all.  I completed Yervoy last spring and have been on Zelboraf for 7 months.  I was just refused entry into a PD-1 trial at Sloane due to brain mets which Bristol Myers Squibb claims are active.  My docs and radiation consultants disagree but I guess the drug companies get to make that decision. other mets in my stomach and knee seem to be showing some indication that my body may be building up a resistance to the Zel.

Anyway, my onc now wants to continue with the zelboraf, re-introduce yervoy along with it and also add some radiation.  Anyone have any experience with this?  I've tried to do some research but couldn't come up with much.  Any help would be greatly appreciated.



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Last reply 4/17/2013 - 1:36am
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Allen Carr called to let me know some of the oldtimers were doing chat this week (and last week).  I can't get in---I just get a black screen.   Any help?

You're all prolly gone tonite since it's after 10pm EST.   Wish we could still see who was in the chat room. *sigh* 

Anyhoo, howdy, hope you all haven't missed me too much.  I know some of you haven't missed me at all!  =) 

Still raising girlies and taking care of MamaG.  She fell the 1st week in January and broke her clavicle (collarbone) on the right side.  She did a hard, fast rehab (10 days or so).  Got her home from that, and 2 days later, she was back in the hospital w/ pneumonia.  She went to a skilled nursing rehab after that, and within FOUR HOURS of being there, fell off the flippin' bed and broke her left hip!  She had surgery 2 weeks ago, and is back in skilled nursing rehab.  She's had a rough start this year.   

I'm over 12 years NED now (yippeee).  Still have a crappy back, which is getting crappier every day.  I live with it. 

If I can ever get into chat, I hope to reconnect with my old-timer buddies!  We need another bash!  Told Allen we need to take a cruise, but I've been rethinking that after the "cruise from hell" recently. 

Ya'll can find me on facebook (Lisa Garman Norvell). 

Take care!  *Hugz*


ps.. JAG---didn't know you had a baby boy now.   Congrats!   Mr. Bill---send Allen Carr your email addy, k?  He asked me if I had it.... hah! (Never did!)Bonnie, I think of you all the time.  I owe tons of people emails and can't say when (or even IF) I'll get around to answering them.  Life is busy busy busy these days, and when it's not, I'm playing auto-bingo while trying to catch up on shows on my DVR!  

Life is NOT a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving in an attractive & well-preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, champagne in one hand, strawberries in the other, body totally used up & worn out, & screaming WOOHOOO, WHAT A RIDE!!

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Last reply 4/13/2013 - 10:13pm
Replies by: NYKaren, jag, JuleFL, BillMFl, POW, Anonymous

My brother was diagnosed with Stage IV melanoma last June and passed away from the disease 3 weeks ago. Even though we live in different states, during his illness I broke my neck and did everything I possibly could to get him the best possible care and to ensure that his quality of life was as good as it could be all the way up to the very end. It was, of course, a very stressful time for everyone in the family. I knew that I was stressed and grieving (and I did take care of myself as best I could) but it wasn't until after he had passed and I had done all the necessary paperwork that my stress and grief REALLY hit me. I guess I'm one of those people who is able to push my emotions into a corner of my mind and get on with what needs to get done. I suppose that is a characteristic of all of us caregivers.

From time to time over the last 9 months I have seen a very good grief counselor. She is very experienced in hospice work and she seems to "get" me and how I operate mentally and emotionally. I saw her the other day for the first time since my brother died. I told her that I was doing OK. Yes, I get overwhelmed with sadness sometimes and start to cry some. But it passes quickly and I get back to doing a lot of things that I have let slide over the months (house cleaning, grocery shopping, freelance work, etc.).

By the end of the session she said that she did not think that I was "doing OK".  She said that 3 times during our session I had gotten all choked up and fought back tears. People who are "doing OK" don't behave that way. I replied that I thought that type of behavior was to be expected when one was grieving. I figured that it would take time for the intensity of the feelings to subside. One just had to be patient and get through it. She said, "No". She said that the only way to really get through grief was to talk about it and cry about it for as often and as long as necessary. Rehash the same upsetting memory again and again if necessary until the grief is gone. It doesn't have to be with her; I could relive the memories and express my grief with my spouse or my family or with my close friends. But her advice was to do so in order to experience emotional healing. 

That approach is foreign to me. In my family, we keep our mouths shut about distressing emotions. If you start feeling badly, distract yourself, change the topic of conversation, push the emotions away. Letting it out, rehashing and reliving the stressful past and anticipating the unhappy future, or crying openly in front of other people is shameful and just makes you feel worse. No good can come of it.  

So now I don't know if I should trust this therapist and continue seeing her for periodic "crying sessions" or whether I should do what I have been taught to do by my upbringing and experience-- stiff upper lip the whole thing. Since this is my first experience with losing someone close to me, I can't imagine how to do things differently from the way that comes naturally to me. I can't imagine how emoting all over the place will help me. But maybe I'm just suffering from a lack of imagination here. Maybe I should try it the therapist's way.

This is where I could use your input. In your experience with grieving (either now or in the past), have you allowed yourself to frequently talk about and cry about your loved one and how sad you are that they had to endure the misery of their disease and how much you now miss them now? Do you think that's a healthier approach than just pushing your grief into a corner and getting on with life? Is the emotional end result-- say 6 months or a year later-- any different with the two approaches?

I would appreciate hearing about your experience and insight.  

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Last reply 4/8/2013 - 9:37pm
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I check the board multiple times a day to hear - anything.  Please let me know how my friend is doing now.  Last I read she was asking for her banjo.  I pray for her every night, and I don't pray much.  Please let her continue to heal......  I also hope the IL-2 she did tolerate is kicking mel's butt royally.......



Cancer Sucks Shit Happens Nothing is ever 100% bad, there is a reason and silver lining in everything. Sometimes I need a good light and my glasses to find it though. You can't fix stupid.

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Last reply 3/30/2013 - 9:10pm

is not doing well. Please see Don's post on the mainboard. I'm suddenly and rarely at a loss for words.


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Dear Dian


Oh for the days of the darkside. we are....this is a time for regeneration and new growth...spring has sprung (at least here) sort of.... but My old fashioned prayers are spilling forth and you simply must pay heed.  Taint your time no way no how.  Who will light Cigar Bob's cigars?  who will be the guitar member of the DFS and who will learn the banjo, except for you?


Get well, Live long and you will prosper.

Love Bonnie Leaheart

Hang in There

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