MPIP: Melanoma Patients Information Page

The MPIP is the oldest and largest community of people affected by melanoma hosted through the Melanoma Research Foundation. It is designed to provide support and information to caregivers, patients, family and friends. Once you have been touched by melanoma—either as a patient or as a family member or friend of a patient—you become part of a community. It is not a community anyone joins willingly. But if you must be part of this group, you will find no better place to find the tools you need in your journey with this cancer, and the friends who can make that journey more bearable.

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Replies by: VIve, Anonymous, KatieB

Hi all,


I was was just diagnosed this week. I haven't seen the pathology yet but I've been told that I was lucky and that it was .3mm and stage 1A.  An experienced melanoma surgeon said he would not recommend testing the nodes. It was a shave biopsy but he felt confident in the pathology.

I've never been a hypochondriac and I've always been really healthy but for some reason this diagnosis has me terrified and worried that other recent symptoms could be linked. I'd love any advice from you all as to what I should worry about and investigate or not.

Specifically, I'm worried that my menstrual cycles have been crazy recently - 10-13 day cycles for the past few months with heavy bleeding.

I went to the gynecologist recently (but I didn't know yet about the melanoma) - she ordered blood tests that show elevated thyroid and an ultrasound that showed cysts on one ovary but I haven't heard back from her about her analysis of those things.

I have a node in my armpit (opposite side of the melanoma spot on my back) that is enlarged - maybe the size of a big marble and has been for years.

I probably have 20 remaining moles (many have been removed over the years.) The one that was removed didn't look bad to me so now I don't know what I should be looking for.  I'm really worried that I have more melanoma and a worse case somewhere else on my body.

I'm not sure what I'm asking for here - I guess I'm just overwhelmed and scared and not sure who can help me to rule out the possibility that the cancer has spread: dermatologist, gynecologist, oncologist, general physician?  Am I worrying too much?  I feel really panicked and not sure what to do.


thank you so much in advance for your help,







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Last reply 4/19/2017 - 9:10am

I have been recently diagnosed with stage 3a melanoma. I had a WLE and SLNB done 3 weeks ago. I had two lymph nodes removed and one came back positive with a very small amount of cancer in it. My oncologist and surgical oncologist both recommend that I have CLND. I don't know what to do? I don't like the idea of cancer possibly being in other lymph nodes but the possible complications of a CLND scare me. I do not want to get lymphedema, and was told I had a 30-40% chance of developing it after surgery. I don't know what to do? I definitely do not want to try Ipi because of the side effects. But, I am not 100% sure that I want to do the CLND. Does anyone have any advice?

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Last reply 4/19/2017 - 5:14am
Replies by: Anonymous, Jamie1960, BetsyM1214

I received a diagnosis of 1A last week and I'm scheduled for a WLE in 4 days. I received no information at the time of my diagnosis other than a voicemail and a copy of my path report from my detmatologist. Thank goodness for the information here! I met with the general surgeon yesterday to discuss the WLE and he offered me a basic explanation of the path report, WLE & follow up checks. The dermatologist also told me to met with an oncologist for a physical after the WLE.  

Here is my question...the surgeon highlighted one concern when I asked if there would be a SLNB and if not, why? He said based on my path report, there is no need for SNLB BUT it's possible that my WLE could show that the original Breslow depth from the biopsy was incorrect (unlikely but possible) and the SLNB then should have been done before the WLE because the staging from the biopsy was wrong. He pointed to the following note in my path report - 'the lesion extends focally to the base of the biopsy'. 

My gut is to postpone the WLE & get an appointment with a melanoma specialist in Chicago to get a second opinion on the SLNB before the WLE. I am now at a local suburban hospital cancer center with no specialty in melanoma. The drawback to this being I would be postponing the WLE for a few weeks while I wait for an appt with a 'better' doctor. My sister in law received treatment at MD Andersen and has urged me to go there as well.

here's more info from my path:

0.6mm thickness, no ulceration, no mitotic figures seen.


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Last reply 4/18/2017 - 5:18pm
Replies by: MikeW

Greetings Friends!

I have some good news and some bad news.  First the good news!  WE HAVE KICKED MEL TO THE CURB!!!! I have completely responded to the Keytruda  and am currently No Evidence of Recurrent Disease (NERD) for Melanoma.  But wait, there's more.  Also I move from Stage 4 back down to Stage 3c.  This is awesome and worthy of a celebratory happy dance, but unfortunately it's uniquely connected to the bad news.

Last Thurs I had a biopsy of the mystery meat in my left lung and it came back as adenocarcinoma, non-small cell lung cancer, not melanoma. So the plan is to have surgery to remove the lung lobe with the tumor "Larry" in it and some lymph nodes  If the cancer has not spread to my lymph nodes, then surgery should be all that I need.  If it has spread, then I'll need more treatment, but I'm getting ahead of myself. I'll deal with that only if need be.

Right now this is all I know.  The hospital is organizing all that is needed for surgery, but it's not an emergency.  I'll let you know.

So this is the news.  Thanks again friends for walking with me in this.



Stage 4  (TXN2cM1b)-- 2008 WLE, SNB, LND, HD-INF, GM-CSF, (intransits) 2013 IPI, (intransits) 2014 PEMBRO, (intransits and lung met) 2016 VATs

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Last reply 4/18/2017 - 1:43pm

Diagnosed with IIIc Melanoma in November of 2015. 


Following several surgeries, the first treatment plan was Yervoy.  This wound up being scrapped as the first infusion came with a little bonus - an eight week bout of colitis that would knock my socks off multiple times each day.


Plan B was T-vec.  Received injections for three months with minimal side effects.  However, my first set of full scans showed that this treatment wasn't really accomplishing much - other than pissing the cancer off as it continued to grow and spread.


Third time's the charm.  I'm now approaching my sixth month of Keytruda infusions.  After the third month scans, I'm miraculously NED.  However, I'm not sure if it's a blessing or a curse.  There are a few of the regularly associated side-effects (fatigue, joint pain, headaches, muscle aches, feeling cold) but those are gladly acceptable considering I'm alive and kicking.


Here's the problem:  I've developed periodic crushing chest pain.  The frequency (several days in a row to once or twice a week), intensity (from 2-12 on a scale of 1-10), and duration (30 minutes to 24 hours) is always random.  When these episodes hit, I am powerless and completely shut down (in addition to being paralyzed by pain and anxiety).  I've had every cardiac and gastric test imaginable and check out fine.  The doctors can't really tell me what's going on.  I'm not sure if this is the Keytruda, a combinaton of the three types of treatments I've had, or something else alltogether.  It concerns me, because what should be the excitement of being declared NED is completely overshadowed by these episodes.  February and March have been extremely rough, and I often find myself wondering if I should be rooting for the cancer (or even speeding up the process myself) because there's no way I want to continue this.  Not just from a selfish standpoint either - it pains me to see what this is doing to my family and relatives.   Just curious if anyone has had a similar experience?


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Last reply 4/18/2017 - 1:40pm

My dad had two seperate craniotomy's in the last month. His last one being about 2.5 weeks ago. 

They tapered him off his brain swelling meds and then last Sunday he started acting very strange, not really responding to my mom, speaking some gibberish, and becoming aggresive. 

They did a follow up CAT scan that looked good so they started him back up on the swelling medication but said it could be days to level out. 

It's been 4 days. His speech and ability to talk are worse then it was before surgery, he's wandering off and becoming aggresive toward my mom when she stops him, and we just keep being told to wait it out. 

His current neursurgeon is on spring break. I don't feel like my mom is being agressive enough to get him in to someone else. 

I guess I'm asking if this is normal?? Is this his new normal?? Should I step in and try to get him into someone or is it really just a wait it out and see thing. 

I'm concerned my mom wont be able to handle this much longer. 


*trying to get all the names of the meds from my mom now. 


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Last reply 4/18/2017 - 11:09am
Replies by: Hukill, Anonymous

So I had my boyfriend get a melanoma specialist that he sees twice a week (or so) and looks at his test results. (He gets X-rays) he started on Immunotherapy and will get another dose in a week and Will be X-rayed the day after the immunotherapy. As far as we both know, the cancer hasn't spread yet but it didn't change size. (It didn't get smaller) I believe he had some lymph nodes removed when he got surgery (around the end of February) he has been in the hospital since the end of February. However my hope is slowly decaying because I keep getting thoughts about him dying. I can't stop crying while we both don't talk. I'm very afraid about what will happen next because there's no cure to melanoma and I read so many patient stories about it. 

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Last reply 4/18/2017 - 8:53am

I know that everyone responds differently to opdivo/yervoy, but how long did the side effects last for you? I would think less than three weeks given the first nfusion cycle, but that's a bit unnerving to think 12+ weeks of constant side effects for four rounds. Did the side effects abate any when you went single agent?

Doc Pain

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Last reply 4/18/2017 - 8:50am

Photos of the current situation are below, as well as what has happened, and most importantly, a few questions. And I have scheduled a digital dermoscopy for 24 April. (As I am writing this, it is April 16.)

In December, 2016, I somewhat scratched my upper stomach and there was something and when took a closer look I found an oval mole that, as it seemed, I had cut in with my finger nails at the lower side as a result of the scratch.

I didn’t think if the mole was there before or not, but later I started to realize that, hey, this mole definitely wasn’t there a few years ago, and maybe even a few months ago. All-in-all, I didn’t suspect anything dangerous at that point.

Then, at the end of February in 2017 or maybe somewhere in March, I somewhat found a dark-brown stripe at the lower side of that oval mole. It kind of was like broken and I was able to remove most of the dark pigment with toothstick and the toothstick tip got covered with dark-brown color too (so it was not  entirely solid). It was at that point when I suspected that it might be something bad but not necessarily and I removed the dark stuff and left it to heal.

As I remember, after a week, I didn’t notice the dark stripe and it was evenly colored but it was little more reddish perhaps. But now, in this month, somewhere in the first week of April, I noticed a new dark spot in that mole at that side.

By looking closer to that new darker spot inside the mole, I notice that it is not oval. At a closer look it appears as irregular shape, almost as scaled shape of x or +.  The diameter of the mole itself is 3mm at the longer axis and 2mm at the shorter axis. Based on touch and light reflections it is not entirely flat (as checked today). It is slightly elevated, particularly at the darker side and not necessarily at the lighter area.

The two pictures below show how it looked the first time I took a picture of the mole on April 10, 2017: 




And here another three pictures show how it looks a week later, today, on April 16 (it has gotten little darker, and I’m worried that it has gotten slightly elevated as well):





I have tried to find similar cases by searching in Google, and I found one case study that seems to be sharing similarities with this one (Case 11, or case K - thickness 0.60 mm):


Now, based on what I have said, and in case that it might be fastly growing nodular melanoma, should I wait the 7 days ‘til I get checked by dermatologist who is specialized checking moles with digital dermoscope, etc., or try to get it removed faster by general board certificated local surgeon? (I’m afraid that local surgeon might not see the seriousness of that and not cut it out properly (I live in Tallinn in Estonia and I’m not sure how “punch biopsy” is in translation to Estonian language either), and maybe they’re not going to send it to proper or specialized biopsy or not sending it fast enough – and when it has been cut out that it then cannot be evaluated with digital dermotoscopy as it has been cut out, etc.)

My second question is that, should I go to the hospital where digital dermoscopy is performed and try to get an earlier appintment than on April 24 – which is 7 days from now? (When I went there on past Friday they first offered me appointment in July, and then I expressed that I suspect melanoma and I got appointment for April 24, which is 7 days from now as I am writing this.) Assuming it could be vertically growing melanoma, should I go there and try to get examined faster – and if so, what specifically I should tell?

And my final question, how quickly a fast-growing melanoma, starting from 0.5 mm thickness and about 3 mm in diamater could possibly grow internally in 7 days in a relatively healthy person? 

Could I slow it down by eating more C-vitamin, like a lot of red pepper in addition to war borccoli? I just started to take vitamin D3 as well as in Estonian winter is without sunshine and I haven’t gotten much Vitamin D since the last summer I guess.

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Last reply 4/18/2017 - 8:28am

So... Life has been a wild ride. My fiancee (26) and I got engaged last July. Date is set for July 22nd. We end up losing our beautiful Golden Doodle tragically a few weeks after our engagement. After having 3 Drs. refuse to biopsy her mole, I finally pushed her into getting it removed. Well... you know the story. She was diagnosed Ib 0.9mm breslow, clark IV, miotic 6, nonulcerated, Superficial spreading... Margins clear on original and I believe on the WLE as well. We were told she was clear nodes, but path called back and claimed they found 4 microscopic cells. (she was a little vague on this and I haven't seen the whole report). Onc. Surgeon said that she would be a soft 3a diagnosis. They took 2 nodes and I believe the SLN was the one with the melanoma cells. The surgeon is recommending against CLND as she has only seen 1/71 patients ever have other positive nodes. Right now I think we are leaning that way. I really want her to get on yervoy and anything else you can do at this point in 3a. Her labs have looked good, but she has not had a PET scan. She will meet with the Melanoma specialist sometime next week. She lives and works at Mayo in Rochester, so I know that she is at a good place. If anyone could offer advice or encouragement it would be helpful. Thank you all so much. I hope you all the best in your treatment! 

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Replies by: Mat

With all of the advances in immunotherapy (which is amazing!) I'm wondering why there aren't tests to prove a systemic response to immunotherapy.

i wouldn't want to injected dead melanoma (if that is even possible). But it seems like there would be a test of some sort to show that our immune system is attacking melanoma cells or is not attacking them. For unresectable patients the evidence is obvious but for us resected patients it would be nice to definitively know if we are durable responders.

Diagnosed Jan 2017 (unknown primary). Surgery Feb 2017 (Speech impediment resulted from ad-hoc submandibular gland removal during CLND). Ipi started Mar 2017 - ended May 2017 (Hypophysitis)

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Last reply 4/17/2017 - 8:47am

Does anyone have a great sunscreen they use every day that doesn't feel like they are wearing sunscreen? It feels like a neverending search for the right one. I have sport ones for when I am more active and don't care if I feel like I am wearing sunscreen. And I have face moisturizer with sunscreen in it that I like. But, finding that one for the whole body for just regular every day use seems difficult. I also hate the smell of most sunscreens. My derm recommended EltaMD sunscreens.. they are kind of expensive, not too bad, but before I go buying some, if anyone has tried it, do you like it for every day?

Jenn -  IIIC - Ipi/Nivo (Yervoy/Opdivo); now on Nivo maintenance

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Last reply 4/17/2017 - 8:44am

I truly truly hate the feel of all sunscreens, lotions, moisturizers so it really stinks that they now need to be in my everyday life! Does anyone have good recommendations for sunscreen, moisturizers/lotions with SPF (for days when not in sun much like work days), and makeup? Also any recommendations where the products don't have "bad/cancer causing" ingredients? I know Zinc products are recommended does anyone have experience with products with zinc that don't make you look like Casper? Thanks!

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Last reply 4/16/2017 - 10:28pm

And the waters  are filled with shark's  to quickly  rubber  stamp  a big "No".

Since my last post , I  have  been  navigating  the system  to get to UCSF, and to their  credit ,  the university  has been helping  me quite  a bit . They now have all the needed pathology , scans, and referrals  on me , and have been working  hard to help me get there .  I was supposed  to be there this Tuesday , the 18th. But after my insurance  denied  my appeal  to the original  denial,   my appointment  has been canceled .  I'm   still arguing  my case with the medical  director  who denied  me coverage .  His reasoning  was "You have an oncologist , and dermatologist  here."

Of course  no one here is a melanoma  specialist , and I've  been around  this board long enough  now to know what I   need, not to mention  no one here knows  what to do with me at this point. So, UCSF has rescheduled  me for May 9th. They're  still  hoping  it gets resolved  by then,  as do I  . But even if  I  get denied  yet again , I  am  making the trip. My thinking  is get my foot in the door asap,and get eyes  on me that will know what to do .  I refuse  to let some shirt who doesn't  know anything about me,  and is trying pinch pennies  stop me from getting  where I need  to go. 

I swear , navigating  the system  is as frustrating  as the disease  sometimes .

Open to any suggestions  how to push this along ,but come hell or high water, I'll be at UCSF  on May 9th.


Aloha  to all in fight ! 


We are one.

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