MPIP: Melanoma Patients Information Page

The MPIP is the oldest and largest community of people affected by melanoma hosted through the Melanoma Research Foundation. It is designed to provide support and information to caregivers, patients, family and friends. Once you have been touched by melanoma—either as a patient or as a family member or friend of a patient—you become part of a community. It is not a community anyone joins willingly. But if you must be part of this group, you will find no better place to find the tools you need in your journey with this cancer, and the friends who can make that journey more bearable.

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nicolepfeil's picture
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Last reply 3/14/2017 - 8:49am

My husband was diagnosed with Stage 3 Melanoma that was located on his arm and in Lympnodes under his arm pit, His option at this point was to start Interferon 5 days a week for 4 weeks, then radiation, then an additional 11 months of Interferon 3 days a week.

We were told how horrible this treatment would be but decided to try.  

After one week he was pulled off of the treatment because it was affecting his liver,  He will be starting again in 2 days and at this point we are wondering if it is worth it.  He is so sick, he cannot leave bed  and is wondering if the 5% chance is worth losing a year lying in bed,

I am wondering if there is anyone on here that has completed the year long treatment, or any opinions on this treatment in general?

I realize everyone is different but as newbies to this diagnosis I am hoping to get any advice that is out there, 

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CindyCo's picture
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Last reply 3/16/2017 - 3:26pm
Replies by: Anonymous, snow white, Bubbles, MaPerny

We got a second opinion with Dr. Hamid on Friday and he encouraged us to also get the Abraxane as planned because of the aggressive lung nodules.  He said that he couldn’t offer us any trials right now because of her liver issues, but that there is a trial being amended at UCLA in the future that will allow for Grade 3-4 toxicities (not sure which trial this is yet).  He is planning to contact Dr. Ribas and we will go from there. Dr. Hamid also hasn’t ruled out immunotherapy in the future.  He is taking another look at my mom’s liver numbers and wants to figure out what caused it—if he can figure that out, then the immunotherapy doors will open again.  So things are in the works, but we are more scared than hopeful right now.

So my mom started Abraxane today.  We pray that she will tolerate it well and that we will have a good response.

In the meantime, we are getting her tumor tested and are praying that there is an actionable mutation.  It looks like she is BRAF and KIT negative, so hoping for an NRAS mutation or a mutation that shows up and can be treated by other cancers.  We also have an appointment scheduled with UCSD which has both the I-Predict program and NCI-MATCH.  According to UCSD, I-Predict has more flexible criteria, but they offer both.

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keepthefaith11's picture
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Last reply 3/19/2017 - 6:33pm

Hi everyone,

My dad passed away peacefully this morning. My mom was right there with him. Even though his brain tumors had gotten better from treatment his brain was clearly damaged.

Yesterday morning he ended up with pneumonia and sepsis. His oxygen level was only at 65% even with oxygen support.

The doctors are saying that the damage done to the brain was a combination between treatments and the numerous seizures he suffered. They had never seen a case like his and can't really understand what exactly happened.

At the end he was barely responsive and was getting gradually worse with each passing day.

I want to thank you for all your support in the past nine months. Much love to everyone and I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.


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Momofjake's picture
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Last reply 3/16/2017 - 4:45pm

Hi friends,

I have been trying to post. It keeps saying error. 

Jakes body is nearly clean, but now he has brain Mets. He is doing SRS next week. He is alive, gaining weight, looks so good and happy. He says he is going to live. He just finished ipi. You gotta love this stubborn, no drama kid. 

Rita's loss broke my heart. And Paul. It's just so hard. I hope our good days shared are okay. 

Love to you my friends,


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Michelle820's picture
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Last reply 3/14/2017 - 9:20am
Replies by: Michelle820, jennunicorn, Anonymous

Hello, was wondering if someone could help me. I had a WLE in late December for a melanoma in situ on my chest area. Margins were clean, etc. While doing my skin check today, I noticed a few pigmented areas at the end of the scar. It's hard to know if there were there initially? Because of how the skin goes through so many color variations during the healing process. Plus, I used a new "MoleScope" device to take pictures of my moles, so of course it magnified the area. Now I am uncertain if this "normal" or not. I only had an insitu, so I wouldnt think anything could recur or spread? But don't also want to blow it off either:/

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Lddaughter's picture
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Last reply 3/15/2017 - 12:41pm

I apologize, I feel like I have been using this board/forum as support, hope, guidance and a way to help us get through this really tough beginning. High overview, the last 2 months have been crazy. My moms masses are primarily in her liver where she is feeling most of her pain and the adrenal gland (hormones are being thrown off I am sure). They explained that the masses lay on many nerves that spread throughout your abdomen and back so they gave her high does of oxycodone to try and help alleviate the pain. That was this past Tuesday. We won't start treatment until next Thursday so until then it is just pain management.

Well, she has been having a rough few days. Extreme fatigue (can't stay awake at all), she feels ok until they wear off and then it is back to extreme pain. She is also experiencing nausea and headaches. We are trying to time it and get the pain under control but she hates the feeling of them and the fatigue that comes with it. We are hoping that once her body gets used to them and it is working together to control the pain she will perk up. I just hate seeing her like this and I know she is having a hard time. Any tips on getting these bad days over? I hate to say it scares me but seeing her so lethargic and in pain makes me concerned. Is it smart to keep pushing food and water or should I just let her sleep? 

Thank you for all your information, I truly appreciate it.

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stephanierm's picture
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Last reply 3/16/2017 - 12:51am

I will try to make this a short version. I was diagnosed with a congenital atypical spitz nevi that turned into melanoma in situ stage 0 in August 2013,age 24 while pregnant with my first daughter, it was removed with clear margins. My brother, age 33, was diagnosed with stage 3a melanoma in December 2016, my father was diagnosed with melanoma in February 2017 (still awaiting staging results), my grandfather had multiple melanomas and has since passed and also my husband was diagnosed with stage 1a melanoma at age 15. 


I have 2 daughters, age 3 and age 7 mo. Their pediatrician referred them to a Preds dermatologist because of our family history. My question is, should I have their peds dermatologist remove ALL moles they develop throughout their lives, and I believe my 3 year old has congenital spitz nevi but the derm said we can watch and wait to remove. 


There is just so much family history of melanoma in our family, I feel like my children will 100% get melanoma in their life and I want to do everything in my power for that not to happen. What should I do? 


Thank you 

Stephanie M.

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MovingOn's picture
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Last reply 3/16/2017 - 9:54am

I started Ipi (10mg/kg) recently. My Oncologist said that my taking of Ibuprofen was fine (taking Ibuprofen to reduce swelling from surgery). However, when I was getting the Ipi infusion the Nurse in the oncology/chemo area said I should not take Ibuprofen while on Ipi.

i trust my oncologist and think the nurse was more referring to her primary job in chemo infusions rather than immunotherapy. But in either case I've stopped taking ibuprofen.

Do any of you take Ibuprofen while on Ipi?

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Hi all, I'm a bit hopeless at the moment. Steven is in hospital again. Short history since diagnosis early January: mets in brain (some big 3-5 cm), one big met on adrenal and others on spleen, thyroid and lungs. GammaKnife denied by insurance because of bigger tumors in head, so he had 10 times WBRT in January, tapered off decadron and got nivo/ipi on Feb 8. Back on steroids after few days because of brain edema. A CT scan mid Feb seemed to show that tumors are shrinking.... During the tapering off the last month he got weaker and especially the last week weaker again and less responsive, bladder issues, not able to walk by himself,  this all happened last few days (still on 12 mg decadron)... Yesterday to ER, and MRI shows that the three bigger tumors in the head have been growing again, some even from 3 to 5 cm! And more edema around them, causing the symptoms (while still on 12 mg decadron, that surprises me).  The other tumors seem calm. Now back on 16 mg decadron. Tomorrow talk with oncologist, but I think the talk will be about hospice... My questions: do you think pseudo-progression can look like this? Do you think he is a non-responder to nivo/ipi?  Steven cannot travel really, he is so weak. What would be other options? And if you think we are out of options that is okay too, because that is what I feel right now.

Judy Steven's wife, who is stage 4, ipi/nivo starting mid February

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Anonymous's picture
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Last reply 3/13/2017 - 8:45am
Replies by: BillMFl, Anonymous

Can melanoma be misdiagnosed as completely benign nevus or its unlikely?
I mean is it difficult to distinguish between benign and malignant cells?

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Tamlin's picture
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Last reply 3/12/2017 - 10:13am
Replies by: UBContributor, Anonymous

I had a toe amputation on right foot 11 years ago due to 4mm ulcerated melanoma. It returned to my right groin in May 16 (golfball size) and had a lymph node dissection (11 nodes removed and cancer contained to one node) For the past couple of weeks i have had a burning pain across upper back and neck, a dull pain in right rib at back, and an occasional throbbing pain at my right hip bone. Can this be a sign of metastases?

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Bubbles's picture
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Last reply 3/12/2017 - 2:09pm

With all the pain and hurt that cancer, and for us - melanoma specifically, can cause, I thought this story might lift spirits just a bit.  It is a post from my blog and includes a link to an interesting discussion about cancer and melanoma, hosted by Katie Couric...on the Charlie Rose show.  

I hope for peace for those of you who have lost dear ones.  I hope for strength and courage for those of you actively fighting melanoma.  I hope for a life...for as long as each of us may have it...filled with friends and love and laughter for everyone.

I wish all of you well.  Celeste

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MaPerny's picture
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Last reply 3/12/2017 - 10:38pm

I wanted to share how things are going for us since we got Juan's diagnosis of LMD early January and Juan made the choice not to try the extremely tough treatment options with very uncertain prospects given his tumour burden.

At first, I struggled (and still do sometimes) with this decision but his thought process was that we had all suffered through so many treatments to no avail and he wanted good quality time with me and our son for however many months that he may have.

For the last couple of months, since stopping treatment:

Sleeping like a baby (better than in 6 years he says), no more nightsweats; Pain-free for first time in a year (they did an embolization on two very large rib tumours) ; no more nausea,; no more fevers or flu-like symptoms (often daily with various immunotherapies and trials); eating whatever he likes (filet mignon and chocolate icecream frequently)

He is relaxed and at peace, the level of anxiety in our house has dropped and he smiles so much more.

Saying all this, he is definitely sleeping more and beginning to get weaker, yesterday I got a wheelchair for him.  We know we have a limited time of this but it is so good for my 11-year-old son to be getting these fresh memories.  He is thriving at school at the moment.  It is so nice for both of us to see him feeling "better" and "tranquilo" for a while.

So he knew what he wanted for himself and for us when he made his decision and there can be no regrets.  I see it that he is in control and therefore in a certain way he hasn't let melanoma break him or us.

I share all this hoping that it may help some to read this as difficult decisions are made.

my love to everyone on this board



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Charles died at home on February 1st, If I hadn't wanted to give him more time to snooze before readying for his last, one of 10, full brain radiation treatments. The next day was to be advancement to Keytruda, or even perhaps a new clinical drug.  In lucid moments, I am sure he understood that discussions of health aide workers and in home hospice was fast approaching the horizong..............I believe he reached through a window and climbed away, to be at peace, pain free - never to have his worst nightmare of dying in a hospital reallized.  It's been 38 days, and it's still so hard to breathe..................I will work to fight against this disease, but with a heart so bruised and hurting, making my way through a world that is empty for now, filled with lonliness and yearnings for one last hug.............

Please all fight on, kick butt, or at the end cling with love.............for those left behind now suffer in a different way,

I will still visit the site, this forum helped me so much, it sustained me and educated me.  For all those that went before him, hold each other tighht and shine down on us to let us know your spirit still surrounds us.

Please all take care, I love you all like family.



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Last reply 3/18/2017 - 2:23pm
Replies by: dmalone, Anonymous, jennunicorn, stevenallenschwartz

I am scheduled for surgery to further excise my newly diagnosed 1A melanoma on the back of my thigh in the morning. The surgeon was very brief and gave little information regarding my recovery other than I will have stitches for 3 weeks and shouldn't do squats. He told me I could continue running and walking.

I've done a little research and am finding rest after surgery is important and to expect pain.  Has anyone had an excision on their thigh that could share recovery expectations? Did you need more than local anesthesia for your procedure? Were you prescibed post-op antibiotics? What activity were you prescibed after surgery?

Honestly, I was planning on going in for the procedure on my own tomorrow and going back to most of my normal activities, and could use some realistic expectations. 

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